My Story
Relationship Theory Training, Nashville, Tn., October, 2024. With founder, Jourdan Blue
I’m glad you are here.
My name is Darcy Plunkett, and I am a Psychotherapist and an RTM (Relationship Theory Model)Therapist-in-Training in Dayton, Ohio.
From a young age, I knew I was meant to be a therapist. I grew up in a loving but complicated home. My parents, both survivors of trauma and alcoholism, created a welcoming family where everyone felt at home. Still, beneath the warmth, there were secrets and emotional burdens that shaped me deeply. From a young age, I was the “professional friend,” the confidant, the peacekeeper—and later, entangled in adult problems no child should have to hold. When my parents divorced after 52 years of marriage, our family fractured, and I understood firsthand how deeply relationships impact our lives.
Despite this, I married my husband at the young age of 23. For 35 years, we’ve worked hard to build a marriage that is honest, real, and conscious. Like all long-term partnerships, it has had its challenges, but the work has always been worth it. Today, with the RTM approach, we are learning to make our marriage not just stable, but securely attached, setting a new legacy for our children and future generations.
Research shows that the greatest source of happiness at the end of life isn’t money or success, but the quality of our primary relationship. That truth—and my lifelong curiosity about love, marriage, and healing—has driven me as a therapist.
I discovered the work of Jourdan Blue in 2023 - The Relationship Theory Model (RTM.) RTM is a structured, direct, and highly effective 12-stage process that helps couples create real breakthroughs. I knew immediately I had found the missing piece in my training. Today, I’m honored to be one of a small group of therapists training directly Jourdan and her team. This work is already transforming my practice and my own marriage.
Attachment Theory and neuroscience form the foundation of RTM. Together, they’ve helped me heal my own shame and rewire old patterns. I now bring the same hope and possibility to the individuals and couples I serve—whether in person in Dayton, virtually, or one day soon in Naples, Florida.
I’m deeply grateful for this journey. With my personal experience, the wisdom of age, and the courage built from a 35-year strong marriage, I help individuals heal old wounds and couples strengthen their connection—because when we heal within ourselves and in our relationships, our whole lives begin to thrive.
Here’s to being in the top 20% of thriving couples, and living a life of courage and secure connection!
Education:
B.A. Seina College, Philosophy
M.S.Ed. University of Dayton – Counseling
MSW – University of Cincinnati